In the previous 35 years or so sins we came to Holland much has changed. We came here not because we were kings among people, but to find the promised paradise. We came here as second class citizens, that is how we felt and that is how we were treated.
What we saw! we saw beautiful streets, we saw spotless roads, we saw fairness and just in the society, we saw respect for life, we saw equal opportunities, we saw an organized state, law and order, we saw non corrupt government, we saw a great medical care, we saw freedom of thinking and speech, we saw independent women, we saw naked women on the beach, we even saw 2 men getting married, we saw people who did not believe in god, we saw nightclubs, we saw people drinking alcohol openly, we saw being direct was more important than being nice, we saw different ethnic groups living to gather, we saw how well the animals were treaded…
Our interpretation of opportunities, we saw opportunities in work, we saw a naive mentality, we saw our rights without the obligations, we saw possibilities to manipulate the system, we saw people getting money without working, we saw by lying we could get even more money out of the system.
What we achieved, as the time passed the children grew older, fathers became stricter especially to their daughters. Education was good as long it did not conflicted with our norms and values. The children grew the marriages were conducted from back home. The connection was stronger with back home than with here, here was just a means to get to our goal.
We achieved respect of a rich man back home, we constructed big houses back home by living poorly here. The ego was ever present among all of us, we bragged about everything we could put our hands on. We were the people who did not have normal sanitary facilities back home, we were the people still using wooden tablets to write on, we were the people still using wood to make fire. We came from a country which could not provide us of the facilities which we enjoyed here. With this poor mentality we still achieved to educate our children to a high degree. Our children started working in high positions, the new generation started losing touch with back home, they started marrying to their own liking. Norm and values from back home become less present among them, they started to become a copy of the original, but copy become blurry and lacked the authenticity of the original.
A brief history of our life’s.